Has your wife just told you she’s leaving? This is a desperately emotional time, with seemingly nowhere to turn. There are things you can do to help save your marriage, let’s take a look at these options and hopefully help you change her mind.
Regardless of the circumstances of your wife’s decision to leave, it is possible that with the right approach and the right attitude you can repair any damage that has been done. For now, the best thing you can do is to take the pressure off your wife’s decision to leave.
In this highly emotional situation, irrational thoughts and actions will often make the situation worse. You must give the situation some space. Any reasonable male would want to try to immediately change her mind, but your wife will only see this as an attempt to impose your will over hers, and push her even further away. Finding the strength within yourself to do this will help your cause greatly.
If you can, take yourself out of the situation completely and stay away for a few days, this will give you a chance to gather your thoughts and put yourself in a more rational frame of mind. It will be hard, but try and keep contact to a minimum.
As is normally the case during a relationship breakdown, arguments are constant, and accusations are thrown back and forth. If this is the case, more often than not, the real reasons for the problems in your relationship are forgotten, until a stage is reached when all your wife wants to do is put some distance between herself and the emotional chaos. For the time being you have to respect your wife’s decision and give her the space she wants.